Thursday, May 8, 2008

Getting back your girlfriend after a fight or breakup can be a daunting task. Before you go for it you probably need to ask yourself a few questions. Most important, do you want her back because you truly love her for who she is or because you would be ashamed to be seen by your friends without your 'trophy'? Was your relationship a positive one, where common ideals and goals were shared or did the relationship consist mostly of fights and disagreements?
If you believe you and your girlfriend have something special and you know deep down that she is the love of your life, then you owe it to yourself and her to make an honest attempt at getting her back. If this is the case don't sit and stew and let your mind play through 'what if' or 'if only I had done that' senarios - this is just not constructive.
You may be going through all sorts of emotions; anger, regret, fear and longing. That's ok, it's normal. Realize though, all the back and forth only wears you out. Make a decision to let her go or get her back - that's it!
If you decide to get her back, then you must decide how. You can go the direct, honest and heartfelt route, (and this is what worked for me), If that's all it takes consider yourself lucky. Just tell her you love her and want her back and that you are willing to work at the relationship. If you feel you made a mistake you must be willing to ask for forgiveness, if you feel she was the one who screwed-up, you must be willing to forgive and not dwell on past insults or grievances.
If you want to be more manipulative - and you know she's jealous, just her seeing you with an attractive lady could be enough to send her running back to you. You know your lady and if you feel that will work, go for it - just realize - that it may backfire.
Getting back your girlfriend can be tough, and friends may not always be supportive. If you are truly serious about getting your ex-girlfriend back, let me recommend a complete program that is designed for people in your exact situation, it's a great resource for keeping your most valuable relationship healthy. To discover more - visit my site in the "About the Author" section. I wish you the strength and wisdom to get your ex girlfriend back - and keep her by your side.

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